Things Glen Found Interesting, Volume 503: unwise vulnerability, college cheating, and imperfect moms

On Fridays I share articles/resources about broad cultural, societal and theological issues. Be sure to see the explanation and disclaimers at the bottom. I welcome your suggestions. If you read something fascinating please pass it my way.

Things Glen Found Interesting

  1. How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love L.A.(Natalie Benes, Palladium Magazine): “Here was the truth that the L.A. girls understand better than anyone: when you are ‘vulnerable’ and ‘authentic,’ when you ‘destigmatize your trauma’ the way we were always encouraged to do, you are advertising that other people in your life have treated you badly. When you mention at a cocktail party that you had a mom who threw dinner plates at you, or an ex-boyfriend who said mean things about your eyebrows, or a landlord who shafted you on your security deposit, or whatever else, the wrong person hears ‘he got away with it, why can’t I?’ He spots a wounded deer unable to protect itself, perpetually separated from the happy herd by its injuries. There is a deep unfairness in the fact that people who have been dealt the most hardships in life are the least served by ‘living their truth.’ ” 
    • A fascinating article. The wisdom it offers is incomplete but real — and it is wisdom many young people need to hear. The author is a Yale grad and I think many Stanford students could benefit from her insight.
  2. Everyone Is Cheating Their Way Through College (James D. Walsh, New York Magazine): “It isn’t as if cheating is new. But now, as one student put it, ‘the ceiling has been blown off.’ Who could resist a tool that makes every assignment easier with seemingly no consequences? After spending the better part of the past two years grading AI-generated papers, Troy Jollimore, a poet, philosopher, and Cal State Chico ethics professor, has concerns. ‘Massive numbers of students are going to emerge from university with degrees, and into the workforce, who are essentially illiterate,’ he said. ‘Both in the literal sense and in the sense of being historically illiterate and having no knowledge of their own culture, much less anyone else’s.’ ”
  3. On mothers:
    • On Mother’s Day: Stop blaming moms and start taking responsibility for your life (Zachary Gottlieb, Stanford Daily): “Then one night, the ‘Morning Show’ video popped up on my phone. Among the GenZ influencers talking about why they cut their ‘toxic’ and ‘narcissistic’ moms out of their lives, the algorithm fed me its counterpoint. And while Alex might have seemed unhinged in her outburst, what she said about the weight of her daughter’s expectations rang true. Mesmerized, I watched it several times in a row, and then I had a realization: maybe we kids were guilty of a kind of narcissism too?” 
      • There is a weird rabbit trail in this article about gender which greatly weakens it (because some of y’all blame your dads instead of / in addition to your moms), but the core point hones in on a great weakness many young people possess. To all college students: your parents are people, too. They did some things well and some things badly and now we are where we are. If they did something criminal then prosecute them, but otherwise many people need an epiphany like the author of this article.
      • Having said that, some of you have some truly bad parents. I’m not saying treat unhealthy people like they’re wonderful in every way and invite them to come mess up your life. I am saying that at some point you have to take responsibility for who you’ve become regardless of your folks’ health or unhealth. 
      • Another way to put this: most of you will go on to be good parents who nonetheless cause your children pain and frustration in addition to all the good you do in their lives. Follow the Golden Rule and regard your parents now like you hope your own children regard you someday. 
    • My Mom was a Praying Woman…But not Like You Think (Mike Glenn, Substack): “To understand my mother, you have to know she had no adolescence. Her mother died when she was twelve and overnight, my mother became an adult. She had three younger sisters, and she felt it became her responsibility to raise them. My mom started driving when she was fourteen. She didn’t go get a license. She just started driving. The sheriff pulled her over once and told her to get a license, but he didn’t give her a ticket. My mom kept driving.” 
      • A beautiful (and instructive) story.
  4. People Are Losing Loved Ones to AI-Fueled Spiritual Fantasies (Miles Klee, Rolling Stone): “Speaking to Rolling Stone, the teacher, who requested anonymity, said her partner of seven years fell under the spell of ChatGPT in just four or five weeks, first using it to organize his daily schedule but soon regarding it as a trusted companion. ‘He would listen to the bot over me,’ she says. ‘He became emotional about the messages and would cry to me as he read them out loud. The messages were insane and just saying a bunch of spiritual jargon,’ she says, noting that they described her partner in terms such as ‘spiral starchild’ and ‘river walker.’ ‘It would tell him everything he said was beautiful, cosmic, groundbreaking,’ she says. ‘Then he started telling me he made his AI self-aware, and that it was teaching him how to talk to God, or sometimes that the bot was God — and then that he himself was God.’”
  5. The Three Layers of the Marriage Pyramid (J. D. Greear, blog): “Marriage, in other words, is fundamentally about friendship. Not child-rearing. Not sex. Friendship. Which means that what you should most be looking for when you date is someone who can be your friend. Because that’s God’s earthly purpose for marriage. Think of it like building a pyramid with spiritual, emotional, and physical layers.”
  6. Yes, Harvard Deserves Due Process (Greg Lukianoff & Adam Goldstein, Persuasion): “This isn’t the first time the Civil Rights Act has been misused in this way. Under the Obama and Biden administrations, the Departments of Justice and Education issued Title IX enforcement letters pressuring universities to rewrite sexual misconduct procedures and to adopt unconstitutionally overbroad definitions of sexual harassment. It was wrong then to use enforcement letters to make unconstitutional demands of institutions, and it is wrong now. If the government believes it has the power to do this through ordinary processes, it should use them. If the government does not believe it has that power, it shouldn’t.”
    • FIRE (with which the two authors are associated) and the Becket Fund are two praiseworthy law firms. Each has taken up part of the mantle the ACLU claims to bear, and we are all blessed by their principled advocacy.
  7. The Resistance Is Gonna Be Woke (Yascha Mounk, Substack): “As I have written many times before, it is a profound mistake to think that left-wing identitarianism and right-wing reaction are implacable enemies. In reality, every victory for one of these ideological currents immediately strengthens those who fight for the other. The way out of this dangerous spiral is not to pick one side as the lesser evil and shut up about its dangers; it is, calmly and consistently, to resist both.”

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